Honouring My Energy: A Year of Abstinence
By: Dr. Anna Biela 1.12.2024 8:48 am
Almost a year ago, I made a choice that’s changed so much about how I see myself and my relationships: I decided to practice abstinence. It wasn’t about avoiding intimacy or shutting myself off. It was about protecting my energy and recognizing how powerful intimacy really is—not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually.
Here’s what I’ve come to understand: sex isn’t just about two bodies connecting. It’s also an exchange of energy. When you’re with someone, especially in a deep way like penetration, their energy doesn’t just stop with them—it flows into you. The sacral chakra, which governs creativity, emotions, and sexuality, opens up during intimacy, and that connection can leave a lasting impression. Sometimes, though, it’s an impression you don’t want.
In the past, I didn’t always think about how my partners’ energy might affect me. But over time, I started to notice patterns. I’d walk away from some encounters feeling drained, disconnected, or even carrying emotions that weren’t mine. I realized that when we’re not intentional about who we share ourselves with, we can end up absorbing all kinds of things we didn’t sign up for—stress, unresolved emotions, or just chaotic vibes.
That’s why I decided to stop. I wanted to reclaim my energy and reserve that sacred part of myself for someone who aligns with me spiritually—a partner who doesn’t just connect with my body but uplifts my soul.
Abstinence has been such a powerful experience. I’ve had time to focus on myself, learn what I truly want, and set clear boundaries for the future. I’ve also come to see sex in a whole new way: as something sacred, something that’s meant to be shared with intention, respect, and love.
I’m not saying abstinence is the answer for everyone. For me, though, it’s been a way to reset and protect my energy. And when the time comes to be with someone again, I know it’ll be with a spiritual partner who matches my vibe and values the connection as much as I do.
Until then, I’m honouring my journey. This choice has taught me so much about self-love and the importance of protecting what’s sacred. And honestly? It feels good to know I’m holding out for something real and meaningful.
